Dating Violence: Are You Being Abused?
Emotional Abuse:
Does your boyfriend/girlfriend continually call you names or put you down?
Does he/she make you feel bad about yourself or tell you that no one would want
to go out with you?
Does he/she tell you how to dress, how to wear your hair, and/or your makeup?
Do you apologize for their behavior when they treat you badly?
Intimidation
Does he/she scare you by smashing things, yelling at you or driving recklessly?
Does he/she follow you around at school or in the community?
Isolation
Do you have to justify everything you do, every place you go and every person
you see to avoid their temper?
Does he/she use the phone to monitor where you are or get angry if you're not there
when they call?
Do you avoid friends and family and doing things you enjoy because of their
jealousy?
Threats
Has he/she ever made or sometimes carried out threats to hurt you physically or
emotionally?
Has he/she threatened suicide if you leave the relationship?
Has he/she threatened to break up with you if you don't do what they want?
Sexual Abuse
Does he/she make you have sex when you don't want to, or perform sexual acts
you don't want to do?
Does he/she made you feel unattractive, sexually ashamed or humiliated?
Does he/she constantly accuse you of flirting with other guys/girls or act extremely
jealous?
Physical Violence
Has he/she ever pushed or shoved you?
Has he/she hit, punched, slapped, choked, or bit you?
Has he/she ever tried to physically restrain you to keep you from leaving?
Has he/she threatened to use a weapon against you?
Information provided by the Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse
